English family settle in Hungary...and everything that goes with it!
Author:Sue
I am an English Ex-Pat living in Hungary with my wonderful husband and 19 year old son. You can find me frequently writing, reading and taking photographs. We live in a beautiful small rural village surrounded by forests and lakes always appreciating the beauty around us. Life is good.
Eggs are inexpensive and are an effective source of protein
But did you know eggshells are useful too?
Egg Shells
Eggshells are a brilliant way to add calcium to your soil and they decompose very quickly. Wash the eggshells and air dry them (a couple of days) then crush finely and store in a jar. I shall be adding crumbled eggshells directly to the bottom of my tomato and pepper planting holes before I plant them out, they will appreciate the extra calcium. It will also help in the healthy growth of the tomato plant and develop its resistance to diseases, especially blossom end rot which occurs when there is a lack of calcium.
We eat dozens of eggs and have plenty of shells
Mother birds need lots of calcium in their diets. You can help! Sterilise eggshells by baking on baking sheets for around 10 minutes at 120 degrees Celsius, so the shells are dry, but not brown on the inside. Crumble your eggshells well and place them outdoors (in a feeder or even just on the ground) this will attract the birds for a nutritious treat. You can also mix the eggshell crumbles with birdseed, suet, or mealworms in a bird feeder.
Cow Manure
A great way to fertilise your garden
Our village cow farmer was kind enough to let us have some rotted manure he had sitting in one of his fields. We have used it all over the garden, on flower beds, the veggie plot, the fruit trees and raised beds.
Vegetables that like lots of manure are potatoes and marrows/courgettes/pumpkins. It’s the root crops that you should avoid manuring altogether such as carrots, parsnips, radish or swede as it causes the root to ‘fork’. Also, onions don’t need manuring either.
Cow manure is a nutrient-rich fertilizer and contains high levels of ammonia and potentially dangerous pathogens. For this reason, it’s usually recommended that it be aged or composted for at least 6 months prior to using it.
We fertilise our fruit trees in the spring to early summer but no later than July. We don’t want our fruit trees growing vigorously when they are supposed to be shutting down for winter!
I love to be able to recycle things and use them to our advantage. it makes sense. Just to add, we have a dehumidifier inside the house and save the water collected to water our indoor plants! Every recycle is a good recycle. Do you have any recycling hacks for the garden? I would love to hear from you if you do.
Our village church in Kisszékely is a neo-Classical Roman Catholic church built in 1823. It sits on top of a hill overlooking the surrounding countryside. Many an evening we have sat on the banks of the valley enjoying the evening sunset.
Today is Good Friday, celebrated all over the world. Every country has their own way of celebrating Easter and Hungary is no exception.
Good Friday: Good Friday is the day of remembrance for the crucifixion of Jesus, the time of the greatest fasting and mourning. Hungarians eat lightly on this day usually fish.
Holy Saturday: On Easter Saturday, baskets are taken to church to be blessed. Baskets of bread, salt, eggs, sausage and a cake designed as an Easter lamb. The basket includes a bottle of pálinka (Hungarian traditional fruit brandy). Then, they’re given back to the children for their family feast on Easter Sunday.
Easter Sunday: With Catholicism being the main religion of Hungary, many locals tend to spend part of the holy day at church and with their families. Then onto the Hungarian Easter meal which is a truly wonderful feast. Tables are laid with eggs, meats, hams and traditionally served with horseradish. Easter is not complete without the sweet braided bread known as kalács. This delicious brioche style bread is made with milk and cream and marries very well with butter or jam.
Kalács
For children, Easter in Hungary is about bunnies and colourful eggs. The children of Hungary often receive Easter baskets as gifts and have Easter Egg Hunts.
Hungarians love to show off their egg decorating skills, known as ‘shoeing’. This is an old decorating technique said to have originated in a village of blacksmiths. Eggs all over Hungary are decorated with intricate designs using the floral patterns of the traditional Hungarian embroidery.
EASTER EGGS ON PUSSYWILLOW STEMS
I had never heard of this Hungarian Easter tradition known as “sprinkling” dating back to pagan times. Traditionally, boys threw buckets of water over willing girls or sprinkled their hair with perfume, the boys recited poems, the girls gave the boys gifts, typically a shot of pálinka, Hungary’s potent brandy, typically these things are part of a ceremony. “Sprinkling” signifies great fertility and cleansing rites. This tradition is still performed today.
This is the way Hungarians spend Easter, do you have particular traditions at Easter, Hungarian or not, I would love to hear them in the comments below.
Here’s wishing you ALL a very Happy Easter wherever you are in the world and however you celebrate, I hope you have a good one. Stay well and stay safe.
I am a young retiree but don’t actually feel I am retired. I have not been in paid employment for the last 13 years, I am sure I am not alone when I say I work harder at home than I ever did in all my years of paid employment. My roles have generally been the same over my retirement years, I still keep house, shop, cook, clean, do laundry, dig the garden, be wife, be mother, be nurse and lots of other general things but I still find time to be me. My time to do what I WANT to do, it’s important for me to set aside a portion of each day to self indulge. My passions are photography, journaling, photography and writing, these hobbies I practise daily. I also find time to read, craft and cook. Sometimes I think the busier I am the more I can cram in. I set myself mental goals each morning as I sit and have my first cup of tea. I don’t stress too much if I don’t achieve everything, there’s always tomorrow!
Since the Coronavirus has taken hold, our lives in Hungary are not a lot different from the way they were before. We are isolated in a rural village and have to drive everywhere anyway. We have always shopped in bulk and made good use of the farm in the village for milk, cheeses and meats. I must admit to doing more meal planning and writing long lists to ensure we don’t have to leave the house unnecessarily. We are shopping for 2 weeks at a time at present and luckily have enough freezer space to eat plentifully as and when we want. Ironically the situation has made us think seriously about growing more of our own food. As a family, we eat a ton of fruit and veg and growing them ourselves will not only be cheaper and cleaner but will give us that total satisfaction of eating our own produce.
I thought it would be interesting to record what I actually do during my days of retirement. Maybe you have days like mine or you have different daily routines, things you HAVE to do on a regular basis and sadly restricts your time for you to do anything else.
My Typical Day
I usually wake early when it gets light, around 6.30 am at the moment, turn on my phone and check my sleep tracker. I am sort of obsessive about this and manage mostly to sleep for more than 8 hours.
I make hot drinks for Eric and I, either Earl Grey or Vanilla tea for me and milky coffee for Eric. Time to sit in front of my PC for usually an hour or so, checking emails, reading the news and checking social media.
Next job is to let Haley our dog out of her kennel. She is an outdoor dog but does spend time inside too. She is always boisterous and energetic first thing, charging around the garden and speed sniffing all her usual spots. I get a love from her when she has finished checking the perimeters of our garden!
Time to decide on what to have for our meals, this usually entails removing meat from the freezer (for us and the dog) and vaguely planning side dishes and desserts. Our son has funny meal times and different tastes so I usually plan for him too. It’s a relief when the meals are sorted out.
Breakfast and then mundane jobs like emptying the dishwasher, vacuuming floors, laundry in. I am fortunate and have a laundry room so can wash and dry all year round, not like in England where we had a constant mountain of washing drying inside the house.
Today we were given (as sometimes happens) by the village gardener, some odd looking, unfamiliar bulbs….I tried to find out what they were but Eric could not remember what he had said. They needed to be in the ground right away so that was my first gardening job of the day. Goodness knows what will pop up.
We had collected some cow manure from the local farm the last time we got milk. Muck spreading was on my mental agenda of jobs to do so that was my next task. The fruit trees in our orchard were treated with this stinky treat. We have apple, almond, cherry and peach trees. Unfortunately, there was insufficient for the 6 walnut trees we planted last year. Another visit to the farmer will be needed.
The men (Eric and Raphael) decided it would be a good idea to have a bonfire and burn the mountain of dried weeds that had accumulated in one area of the vegetable plot. They burnt very well but gave off billowing smoke. Thankfully there are no restrictions about having bonfires here as there are in England.
I spread out all the seeds outside on the table that we had accumulated in our seed box. Some were 2 years old and had come from England, some were bought here and obviously, with instructions in Hungarian and various seeds we had collected and packeted. Eric and I discussed at length and decided what to plant where and managed to decipher the Hungarian seed packets with the help of Google Translate.
Time to get physical, in the gardening sense! I wanted 4 veggie plots and had one left to do to accomplish this. The ground was hard as we have had no rain for a while, it had to be done so set to work with energetic enthusiasm. Haley managed to be a helpful hindrance, jumping all over the new veggie plots, I spent a lot of time shooing her off! By the time I had finished my enthusiasm had died and I needed to sit down. I was super proud of my 2 hour digging and weeding spell though.
The plan for our meal was BBQed beef, marinated in spicy chillies served with sumac, red onion salad and baked potatoes. Eric is ALWAYS the outdoor BBQ chef which is wonderful to eat food prepared by someone else. We all ate around 3pm, working in the garden made us all super hungry.
By mistake, I had bought several bags of what I thought was bread flour when in fact it was actually all purpose flour. The men decided I needed to make something delicious! I sat at my PC and researched some traditional Hungarian bakes. I came across a Hungarian braided sweet bread (as in bread that is sweet), a brioche style bread traditionally eaten at Easter in Hungary. Since we are nearly at Easter I gave it a go. It was a resounding success. One to put in my recipe journal.
Back to mundane tasks, filling the dishwasher, clearing the kitchen, feeding Haley then putting her in her kennel for the night. Eric watered the garden (his daily task) whilst I sat down to my PC.
This is ‘Me’ time, everyone is fed, the household chores have been done so time for some blogging, reading, uploading and editing photographs and checking the news and social media.
Eric is usually in front of the television and Raphael is in his room gaming with his friends.
The last couple of hours of the evening are usually spent with Eric, chatting chilling or watching television before going to bed.
The last things I do before going to bed is to check my step counter, I’m regularly reaching my 4000 steps a day goal, today it was 5358! I also check the weather forecast for the next day….I never lose my English habits! Lastly, I read my Kindle for as long as it takes me to start yawning, it does not take long these days!
So that is one of my typical days, I am never bored and seem to be always on the go. Life in Hungary is generally thought to be slower than in England but I come to the evening every night and wonder where has the day gone? Tomorrow is a new day and another mental list of jobs is forming in my mind. More gardening, more cooking, more jobs but all with my lovely family around me, I am glad we are retired.
I would be interested to learn how other Expats spend their days. Maybe you can inspire me with your ideas, what you do in your free time, how you are entertaining yourself in this period of ‘lockdown’? I am always up for trying new things and learning new skills.
We live in the countryside, have a huge garden and we are gardeners. Just this week in Hungary the sun has been kind and all sorts of plants and flowers are coming alive and bursting into colour. Our lawn (well area of grass!) is awash with bright yellow dandelions. They are the first cheerful signs of spring and living where we do accept they are part of the landscape.
Many gardeners frown upon this rampant plant and make great attempts to eradicate this supposedly troublesome weed. However, this ‘weed’ is a vital nectar source to many animals just coming out of winter hibernation looking for valuable food sources, in particular honeybees.
Dandelion’s common name comes from the leaves’ jagged appearance. The Normans called it dent de lion, or lion’s tooth. English speakers twisted the name into what we know today.
Interestingly, dandelion flowers also give off ethylene gas at sunset, the same gas given off by ripening fruit. Dandelions are sometimes used in orchards to increase the rate of ripening.
Dandelions actually fertilise the grass, their wide spreading roots loosen hard packed soil and aerate the earth. Also, a mass display of yellow bobbing dandelions actually is very pleasant to look at. When they seed and become puffballs, children love telling the time with them using them as dandelion clocks or making secret wishes whilst blowing them from their stems.
Of course, you can also eat dandelions in a variety of ways but if you value your honey, please leave at least a few to spread and multiply in your garden, you will be doing the bees a huge favour.
April is here and time for our monthly walk around the nature trails of our little rural village in Hungary. The weather has been kind, so a great opportunity to photograph nature, the scenery and a multitude of animals we met along the way. I also took pictures of some of the colourful properties we encountered on our walk.
Nature Trail – Wild Pear Boulevard
Hidden lakes of water between the trees.
Butterflies enjoying the wildflowers.
Up the hill
Gorgeous pinks along the trail.
A friendly cat along the way.
Back Garden barn
Trees bursting into life
Intriguing entrance into the hillside
Information board and map of the trail
Spring flowers bloom in harmony
Signs on trees show we are going the right way!
Across the valley the little wooden huts that house boar.
Horses peacefully grazing
Continuing to follow the trail
Our village church in the distance
Blossom on the hill
Into the forest
Forest flowers
At the farm, these cows give us our milk
“I’m looking at you”
Lambs enjoying the spring sunshine
At the dog breeding farm
Colourful yellow house
Flags and crest
Another cheerful house
Little houses dot the countryside
Tiny newly built house
Spring daffodils
Letterbox
Our little village of Kisszékely has a lot to offer the walker and photographer. Every month mother nature changes and adapts to the weather offering wonderful displays of changing colours, a truly beautiful sight. I hope you have enjoyed a little insight into this small corner of rural Hungary.
Hungary maybe a landlocked country but it has plenty of thermal water springs to indulge yourself in.
More than 1,300 natural springs cover the country with the opportunity to experience them all year round.
The natural springs are rich in dissolved minerals known for their incredible healing powers and it’s also a wonderful way to spend a luxurious few hours. Some are sulfurous-smelling, some are salty, and some have other special properties, it varies depending on where you are in the country.
Spa culture has been a part of the Hungarian lifestyle for hundreds of years, introduced by the Romans, it is considered as part of their balanced everyday life. Outdoor spas, when the weather is icy cold but the water is steaming hot are an unforgettable experience.
Budapest
Budapest the capital, is home to 123 thermal spas, arguably the most beautiful is Gellért Fürdő, built in 1918 with stunning architectural features, frescoed ceilings, colourful tiled mosaics, beautifully carved stone columns and striking statues. Outdoors there is a magnificent wave pool very much loved by the Hungarians and visiting tourists.
Hévíz Lake
Hévíz Lake, near the western end of Lake Balaton has become known over the centuries for the curative properties of its naturally warm spring waters. They are full of minerals such as calcium and magnesium and are slightly radioactive making them ideal for the treatment of rheumatism and other ailments. It is the largest thermal lake in the world which is available to bathe in. The flow of water is very strong and the water in the lake is completely replenished every 72 hours.
Rural Spa – Tamási
Tamási Spa
The main tourist attraction of Tamási is the beautiful thermal spa and open air bath. It is located 30 kilometres east of Lake Balaton and is our local spa which we visit regularly. The excellent natural environment, and the water quality have made Tamási known internationally as an effective curing spa. The thermal water is 52 Celsius warm and very healthy. The special health-improving quality of the water is due to its high sodium, calcium and potassium concentration.
Hungary’s spas and their treatments will leave you refreshed, relaxed, re-energised, and looking as good as you feel. They are well worth a visit.
This was my first visit to one of Hungary’s famous thermal spas, the review appeared on Trip Advisor, this is what I said:
Fun at Tamási Spa
Our first experience of a Thermal Spa in Hungary and it was truly lovely. The spa was easy to find on the outskirts of Tamási and offered free car parking. Inside the whole building was clean light and airy with plants everywhere. Numerous different pools with varying water temperatures added lots of fun. The spiral tube slide, the children’s pool, the jacuzzi were all immaculately clean with lifeguards watching each area. For an additional cost, you could take advantage of the sauna or have a massage. Upstairs was the thermal water pool and access to outside to sunbathe if required. A small but well-stocked cafe was also on this floor. The lockers provided were easy to use with showers, toilets and hairdryers if required. We chose a time that was not busy and spent around 3 hours there. We paid 5,800 HUF about £16 English pounds for 3 of us. Well worth it and recommended for winter or summer fun. Date of experience: April 2018
The well stocked cafe and outdoor sunbathing area. Tamási Spa.
I would love to hear your personal experiences of Hungarian spas and how they have helped you with any health issues.
Purple Dead Nettle (Prunella Vulgaris) is a very common plant, often referred to as a weed found mostly in Europe and Asia.
It is quite likely you have seen this pretty plant growing in the wild but unlikely to be able to identify it.
Purple Dead-Nettle is not only a wild edible green, but also a highly nutritious superfood. The leaves and stems are edible, with the purple tops having a slightly sweet taste. It has a mild, slightly grassy, pleasant floral flavour.
Purple Dead-Nettle you may be surprised to know is part of the mint family although it doesn’t have a minty taste. You can forage for it in the wild, in meadows, roadsides and edges of forests, or you may find it growing in a neglected part of your garden. It gets its name because the leaves look like the common stinging nettle but thankfully do not have the painful sting.
Its delicate purple flowers will attract the bees to your garden and is one of the first flowers along with dandelions to pop up in the springtime. The pollen is red and is sometimes seen on the heads of bees.
Purple Dead-Nettle is very easy to grow from seed and thrives in full sun or partial shade. Collect the seeds to spread around your garden for next year. They prefer neutral to slightly alkaline soil, so if you live in an area with limestone these are the perfect conditions. We live in Hungary and the soil around us is heavy with lime, so ideal. As it grows it forms colourful clusters of purple blooms that cover the ground.
Harvest when the plants are still young by just taking the top leaves and the stalks because as the season progresses the stems become somewhat tougher. The plant is highly nutritious, having an abundance of vitamins particularly vitamin C, along with iron and fibre, while the oil in its seeds is packed with powerful antioxidants.
It has many culinary uses and can be added to stir-fries, salads, soups, or made into a nutritious tea or healthy smoothie.
This plant is also renowned for its medicinal benefits, said to be anti-inflammatory, antibacterial and antifungal. It is also a diuretic and an astringent. Drinking in tea or added to a smoothie may be the simplest way to enjoy it’s benefits, although it may also have a laxative effect if used in large amounts. It’s also good for the kidneys and may help with seasonal allergies.
The leaves of the purple Dead-Nettle plant can be placed on wounds or cuts to stop bleeding, and its vitamin C content works to help boost the immune system and fight infection.
Such a wonderful wild little plant, who would have known it has so many beneficial uses.
“Shall we move abroad?” my husband said one day. I was a little shocked and just thought his idea would go away. “I have been watching a TV programme ‘Life in the Wild’ about people who move to remote places and how they get on, do you fancy it?” To be honest, no I didn’t! I was used to living in a city surrounded by mod cons and everything I needed was a walk away. He persisted for many months with his ideas of the self sufficiency lifestyle, land for animal farming, home grown vegetables and the experiences of living in a small village. The location he had chosen was Hungary.
Gradually I started to like the idea, perhaps it would be good to experience something new, after all we had been living in England for the past 15 years and we weren’t getting any younger. Eventually, after much debate about the practicalities and financial implications, I said YES!
“We are going to become Expats in Hungary,” I told my friends and family. I got very similar reactions from everyone usually “Oh you are so brave” or “I wish I could do that” and “Why Hungary?” sort of comments.
We have now been here for 2 1/2 years, experienced lots of highs and lows along the way but can finally look back and say we made the right decision.
It has become apparent to me that there are 5 definite stages you go through before you become a true Expat, each one covering a wide variety of different emotions that most people experience when they take the plunge and embark on a new life abroad.
1. The Great Idea
A mountain of research was the first task, our enthusiasm was limitless. For hours, I scoured thousands of internet pages looking for suitable properties for sale in rural Hungary. I poured over Google Maps to find remote locations and talked endlessly about promising places I had found. We were so excited now we had made the decision to move. Every night I would go to bed with butterflies in my tummy imagining our great family life in our new country and everything it had to offer. My bookshelf increased in size with various travel guides to Hungary, I read them cover to cover with great excitement. I made numerous lists of things that needed to be done. I often asked myself can we REALLY do this? I figured that if we did not do it now we never would. My doubts came and went and I set about making loads of arrangements for our future.
Tip 1 – Be Organised
2. Moving Day
We had said our goodbyes, this turned out to be a very emotional departure, I shed a few tears. I took some photos and loaded up our belongings into our car. I had a certain sadness inside me, leaving the familiarity of the country I had known all my life. It was different for my husband as he had lived in other countries before, I am sure he did not feel my sadness. Once we were off, I experienced a mix of nervousness and excitement throughout our long journey to Hungary. I felt emotionally and mentally drained worrying continually that my meticulously planned journey would go smoothly. We had an overnight ferry crossing, a drive to connect with the Motorail which would take us overnight across Europe and into Austria then finally drive across the border into Hungary and our new home.
Tip 2 – Be Positive
3. Reality Check
The cold icy village lake, Hungary
We had made it, the start of our new life, it was like starting a new job, all familiarity had been left behind in England. We were all overwhelmed by the newness of everything. Very quickly we had to establish new routines and schedules different from what we had been used to. Our relationship took some testing during this period and the feeling of isolation began to set in. The language barrier was our biggest problem and we struggled to do the most menial tasks. All our belongings were in boxes and it took an eternity to find anything. Tempers were severely frayed and our once amicable family unit became an eternal battleground. At that point, I seriously felt this life was not for us. We had arrived in winter and it was extremely cold, I felt miserable and was missing England.
Tip 3 – Keep Calm
4. Slowly Does It
I reasoned we had to give this move a chance, I was unrealistic in my dreams, I had wanted this to be a great time in our lives, the opportunity to reinvent ourselves but also to live the same comfortable lifestyle we had been accustomed to in England. We both had dreams of a life full of rewarding adventures. My thoughts at that time were very jumbled, I just seemed to experience a complaining mindset all the time. To make this work we HAD to pull together and tackle each obstacle one at a time. It took a hell of a lot of time and patience to do this, even the simple task of supermarket shopping was daunting, everything was written in Hungarian, we bought several things in error in the beginning but we learnt from our mistakes. Slowly slowly we learnt as we went along, discovering we could ask for help in our village if needed. We were lucky, usually in rural Hungary no one speaks English but we discovered a wonderful Hungarian lady who had lived in England and was fluent in English. She helped us enormously. As our frustrations got less and our language skills got better we began to enjoy this new way of life. We travelled around the area noting important places we might need, the post office, the bank, supermarkets, takeaways! We made friends, we had dinner parties. We had turned a corner and for the better.
Tip 4 – Be Social
5. Our House is Home
I look back on the turbulent beginnings and now am glad we took a leap of faith to where we are today. We both know the village and the surrounding areas very well, we know the villagers and they know us. We might still be “The English Family” but that’s alright, they have welcomed us into their village and are only too happy to smile and wave or offer a helping hand. Our language skills have improved and my husband can have a lengthy conversation in Hungarian, not bad considering it is one of the hardest languages in the world. I continue to take hundreds of photographs, write in my journal, add to my blog and read lots of books. We have tried lots of Hungarian foods and have BBQ’s with meats from the village farm. Friends from England visit and we have a lot of fun, especially in the summer months. The weather is scorching hot (I love it) so we mostly live outside and winters are very cold, good for staying indoors and family bonding. The funny quirks of our house, we are now used to and I can honestly say it feels like home at last.
Tip 5 – Enjoy Life
We are very happy living in Hungary, our new adopted home, we have accomplished our goal and have become contented Expats. This was the bravest thing we have ever done in our lives together and am so glad we didn’t give up along the way. We do have future plans, lots still to do renovating our home and will get it all done in our own good time.